So many discussions to choose from, which one do I talk about?? Oh! I know. What is the best way to work out in the gym? Of course, I know the best way for me is to go slow and easy. I need to build up to the higher speed of the treadmill and elliptical machines, and then use lower weight on the circuit training equipment. My brother’s advice to me was to go as fast as I can for as long as possible. All the while, my brother is looking off elsewhere looking at the wall and I was getting irritated because he was not looking at me. He would not acknowledge any of my comments or suggestions. In the end, we both left angry and frustrated with each other.
From the reading, I gathered that the conversation I had with my brother was a typical miscommunication problem most men and women face each day. With that being said, most of the essay written by Deborah Tannen relates to our conversation as far as how we were raised to fill the typical male or female roles.
Tannen states “I believe these systematic differences in childhood socialization make talk between women and men like cross-cultural communication,” (Beetles, 242). According to the essay, boys are a part of hierarchy relationships in comparison to girls who relate to others by acknowledging other peoples thoughts and feelings. This makes girls feel closer and connected to the world around them. My brother must have felt I was trying to order him to do things my way. But in all honesty, I was only trying to suggest a safe way to use the equipment at the gym.
The body language a girl expresses is different in comparison to a boy’s body language. Girls like to have eye contact and some kind of acceptance where boys do not need any kind of recognition during a conversation. It drove me crazy my brother was not looking directly at me. I believed he was just ignoring anything I had to say. He never even said if I was right or wrong in his opinion.
I guess it is sometimes funny how men and women interact with each other. If only I would have had this small piece of knowledge this conversation might not have been so frustrating. I think the next time I talk to my brother it will be with a little bit more understanding.
Work Cited
Tannen, Deborah. "Sex, Lies, and Conversation" Academic Communities/Disciplinary
Conventions.Ed.Bonnie Beedles and Michael Petracca. Upper Saddle River: Prentice Hall,
2001. 240-245.
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